Grooming can happen slowly and quietly, often by someone in a position of trust. Parents should watch for unusual attention, secrecy, or isolation from peers. When the adult is a coach or teacher, these warning signs are easier to miss. Knowing the signs that your child is being groomed by a teacher or coach is essential. Early action can help prevent abuse.
Grooming is a methodical and gradual process that sexual predators use to gain a child’s trust. Once they succeed, the child lowers their defenses and becomes an easier target for exploitation. Children are naturally inclined to trust adults in authority, and certain teachers or coaches misuse that trust to take advantage of them.
Common grooming warning signs include:
- Sudden secrecy or withdrawal from family.
- An unusual emotional attachment to the teacher or coach.
- Receiving excessive praise, gifts, or favors.
- Private communication outside normal channels, such as text messages or social media.
If an adult is contacting your child privately through digital platforms, consider this a serious red flag.
Groomers often try to isolate the child from peers or family, creating a relationship that feels “special” or secret. Watch for boundary-crossing behaviors, such as giving rides, one-on-one meetings, or contacting your child late at night.
The child or teenager may not realize anything is wrong and may even defend the coach or teacher. As a parent, always trust your instincts. If something feels off, raise your concerns with the appropriate authorities and stop your child’s activities until the situation has been investigated.